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Old 03-23-14, 10:52 AM
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Question Thinking about funerals

probably because a friend's funeral was yesterday and so many ppl told me the funeral was done just the way she wanted it. That brings some questions.

Plaanning ahead: what is the most important thing? what else is important?
What is the purpose of a funeral anyway? Funeral, memorial service, celebration of life. That are the differences in your mind and what is your preference
1Peter 2:24 Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed.

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. ... Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. Matthew 25:40 & 45
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Old 03-25-14, 09:08 AM
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God bless you Sis.

The funeral is for the living to help honor and remember the life, and to bring comfort and closure to those who are left behind.

Pre-planning and straight forward discussion with the family, if at all possible, before ones death will take a great deal of the burden of decision making from the shoulders of the grieving family.

Cremation will save thousands of dollars, and the nuts and bolts reality is that it allows a great deal more flexibility in arrangements, and it in no way dishonors the remains.

If each family member would be able to write down thoughts, reflections, memories, then the pastor, especially if they have not met with the deceased prior, will be better able to honor the departed.

Our children took the old pictures and made a slide show set to music for their Mama, and it was on a loop and played during visitation, and once just before the service.

We chose cremation, and I rented a casket which was used for Jan to lie in state at the funeral home, and during visitation. We had the service in a gymnasium with our fire department providing lunch afterwards. We had no insurance for Jan and had to come up with $3100 in one morning, and $5500 if she was transported and present at the gym.

We said goodbye at the funeral home, and the children and grandbabies did not have to see her hauled away from the service. It was a celebration of life, and she had always told the grandbabies that they were going to dance to "Wipeout" on our 50th wedding anniversary. We made it forty, and at the end of the service, while the fire department was arranging tables for the dinner, we all went outside and released 59 balloons while they played "Wipeout" on a car stereo.

The kids have done several slide shows for family over the years. I met my wife's cousin half way to pick up the pictures of his wife, and my son did the slideshow, put it on youtube, and the family 90 miles away could see it prior to the day of the service, for their mama.

This is the slideshow which my babies did for their Mama:

I have brought the service more than a dozen times over the years, for close family and for some of those who know me, or know of me. I brought my brother-in-law's service with half of the church filled with Harley riders and a motorcycle escort, and the same year for the wife of a distinguished lawyer and whose brother-in-law is a heart surgeon at john's Hopkins, with a yard filled with attorneys, bankers, doctors, business professionals, and my employers.

It is important to receive the attributes from the personality, and from the family, anecdotes, stories, and to share the positive aspects from the heart and life.

I always close with my "Hall of Faith" and encourage those gathered to place their faith and trust in Christ for absolute assurance of Glory, as He is our only certainty, and I do not declare the deceased in Heaven or Hell, unless I had certainty of their heart for Christ, but just emphasis that through faith in Christ we can have such.
A Servant of Christ,

Create in me a clean heart,
O God; and renew a right
spirit within me. Psalm 51:10

Nemo surdior est quam is qui non audiet - No man is more deaf than he who will not hear
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Old 03-25-14, 05:39 PM
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I loved reading this. Thank you for sharing that.
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